Semantics ‘Love’ vs. ‘In Love’

Here’s some relationship advice.

There’s a difference between ‘loving someone’ and being ‘in love with someone’.

Depending on which one you mean, the words “I love you” definitely mean the first, but it doesn’t always imply the latter.

You can love your family, friends, and neighbors, but with the English language, saying that “you’re in love with them” would mean something completely different.

So listen up, because this is going to alleviate a lot of heart breaks out there. It might help you too, who knows.

Before you fall in love with someone.

Get permission, get consent.

Consent is pretty important, and I know that sounds weird, but let me put it this way.

If you tell someone ‘hey catch’ and throw them your heart. If they decide not to catch it and it falls to the ground and breaks, whose fault is it? Is it their fault for not catching your heart? Or would it make more sense to have responsibility and ownership to say, ‘you know, maybe I shouldn’t throw them my heart. Maybe they didn’t want it’.

Let’s say they do catch your heart, did they even want it? Maybe the have catlike reflexes, caught it, but at the same time they didn’t even want it.

So, if you don’t want your heart to be broken, simply don’t give people your heart to have be broken. Especially don’t give it to someone who doesn’t want it.

This doesn’t mean that someone who has your heart won’t break it. Some people are ‘reckless with my heart’ if you know what I mean.

What I’m trying to say is, you got to cut your losses from your grand expectations and delulu that you’ve been daydreamin’. It’s much better to limit your love than to obsess and fall deep and madly in love ever-so one-sidedly. You get to choose how deep you want to go, and if you’re not caught or met the same, then it might end up in a lot of hurting.

Now the cool thing about this is, this allows you to limit how deep you fall in love with someone- which means you can still love someone for being them and all that smooth jazz. Additionally, you can love more people. You don’t have to question whether you’re in love with someone or not, to love them. You can love people for merely existing. Oh, you breath? I love you. Too easy.

And this helps you navigate your life with more love. Not all love is being “In Love”.

Personally, just ask “Hey, do I have permission to fall in love with you?” and you can also ask a follow up question “Hey, do I have permission from you to fall in love with me?”. Sounds corny, but it makes a big difference.

Just be careful giving your heart away, you only have one. So if you give it to someone who gave their’s to someone else, that’ll be a problem. Just as the old proverb says, “you can’t have two masters”, there’s not really a way to give your heart to two people without having it be split.

I mean, this is just advice, you do you. You want to convince someone to like you as much as you like them, and you’ve built an occultic shrine in their name and honor, then, I guess, you do you.